Having a successful career is a task in itself. When you add raising children to the equation, life as a young professional gets complicated. Motivational Speaker Tawanda Anderson of SHINE helps you shine in your career as a parent.
Most of us do not really think about balancing career and being a parent when we are in it. We just take it day by day, and wonder how we survived in the end. These rules that I prioritized over the years help me SHINE in my career.
Get a “Village”
Your “Village” consists of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and friends who are willing to step in when things come up at work. A solid “Village” not only babysits, but they also pour into your children by giving them guidance and support. Do not be afraid to ask for help from those outside your close circle. You will be surprised how many people would love to help you and be a part of your “village.”
Stay on a Work Schedule
While co-workers are socializing at the water cooler, prioritize your work assignments and stick to a strict schedule. As a parent, most days after work you will not have time to work uninterrupted. If you do have time to check email or work remotely, you will be sacrificing precious family time. To avoid making that sacrifice, use the workday properly.
Think Like a TEAM
When children think of themselves as a part of a team, your wins are their wins too. You crushing your career goals is them crushing their goals too. They can embrace you going to work and being gone if they know that you are working for “The Team.” When you get that promotion, do not just celebrate with coworkers or your significant other; celebrate with your children. Make a big deal out of even the tiniest work achievements to show them that the “Team” is winning.
Find a Flexible Company
There will be times when you need to pick the kids up from daycare because they are sick. Many schools also have early release days that require you to take off early. There will be mid-morning plays, special lunches, award ceremonies, basketball games, and more events that you do not want to miss as a parent. You being there is what your children will remember the most. The best company and job will allow you to be there for your kids. You cannot put a price tag on a career that allows you to “Be There.”
Take a Solo Vacation
I know I just said “Be There,” but every now and then, take a vacation without the children. I am not saying do not have family vacations, but it is okay to leave them behind occasionally. As a young adult, you need time with no work and no children. This time is when you can relax and reenergize to perform at your best in your career, business, and parenthood. My son once told me, “I love the way you always put yourself in a position to live a little.” He remembers going to grandmas while I took a vacation, and now full knows how to live a little and keep his own sanity.
Remember to SHINE (Stuff Happens It’s Not The End)
You will not always get it right, but do not dim your light. We all have room for improvement in our career and personal life. Do not just focus on the areas where you are lacking; focus on what you do well. There will be enough “Super Parents” trying to show you up and put you down. You might eventually become a “Super Parent,” the one who can do it all, and that’s great. Just remember parenting is always a work in progress. Do what you can do and do it well, that is the key.
Even though with all these practices in place, you may still beat yourself up for not always getting it right. But you have to remember Stuff Happens It’s Not The End. It is perfectly okay to not get it right all of the time. In our house the motto is “If you don’t grind, you don’t SHINE.” The same applies to parenting and holding down a job. You can SHINE in both!